Definition of Selfish
1: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others
2: arising from concern with one’s own welfare or advantage in disregard of others
3: being an actively replicating repetitive sequence of nucleic acid that serves no known function ; also : being genetic material solely concerned with its own replication
Selfish. I hear this word often as it appears to be the label that is placed on me by those that matter the most to me. I understand their point of view as they explain it to me, but in all honestly, it’s not so much selfishness on my part as it is more of a lack of understanding on interacting correctly. I “assume” that people will talk about what they want to talk about and not have a requirement of being asking. It’s a fatal mistake and I am aware. Change is hard though. Change requires patience and by the time this subject comes up the patience has all but run out. I keep thinking about this word and it’s meaning. Am I really a selfish person? And the first definition defines one as to take advantage without disregard of the other for their own pleasure. I do seek out my own pleasure but don’t do so in a manner of intentional disregard for another, and especially not to take advantage of a situation. Although I am labeled selfish, I disagree based on the definition and just think and feel I’m misunderstood. I realize the irony of the situation as I post this on my personal blog where there is no feedback, just me talking. Which is what gets me into this mess…
If it’s any consolation, I wouldn’t describe you as selfish. Just the opposite, actually. You’re a very generous person…probably too generous. Lol. Without knowing the situation that led to this entry, I’ll just say this. There are alot of greedy people out there who’s main con is using people to get what they want. When you put an end to that, they’re going to put it back on you. So, maybe people that call you selfish are wanting the wrong things from you…or too much. Keep in mind that you serve yourself better by being generous with your time and not your money.